Yo. Friday night, I went to a party at the W Hotel here in Los Angeles. While there, from across the room, I saw a major label recording artist whose music I’ve been listening to and supporting for quite some time. I was like yoooo I think that’s her.
So, I went over to her and said “Does your name start with a T?” She’s like “Yes?”. I say “It’s a pleasure to meet you, my name is Kareem.” and she’s like “Ooooohhhhh wow!!!! Yasss!!!!!!!” and I’m like “You don’t have to act like you know me, it’s okay.” And she’s like… “Nah, Kareem Taylor, right?” And I’m like “Ooooooh shit. Hell yeah.”
Man, I have never felt so stupid in my life. I just felt dumb for assuming, ya know. It ate me up inside at me assuming, and being wrong about her knowledge of me. And I was sick the rest of the night lol … The things we assume can kill us. Whether it’s assuming something about someone, assuming that you know something. Most times, we are wrong about our assumptions. It would be best for us to not impart our judgment onto other people, not to block their perspective while trying to give ours. She knew who I was, and I just couldn’t let that be, because it’s no way this recording artist knows who I am. In fact, there is a way and I need to let that be.
Assuming is a dangerous road to go down, but the good news is we don’t have to. Imagine all the things we assume and how much time we’ve wasted being wrong about it. It’s worth thinking about. It’s definitely changed the way I see things. Maybe it can do the same for you.